Some people deny that their problems exist in the first place. And because they deny reality, they must constantly delude or distract themselves from reality. This may make them feel good in the short term, but it leads to a life of insecurity, neuroticism, and emotional repression.

Some choose to believe that there is nothing they can do to solve their problems even when they in fact they could. Victims seek to blame others for their problems or outside circumstances. This may make them feel good in the short term, but it leads them to a life of anger, helplessness and despair.

Mark Manson
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (New York: Harper Audio, 2016)